topics covered


1. The five basic questions:

  • How is your marriage/relationship doing?

  • What makes relationships change, for better or for worse?

  • If your relationship is in trouble, how can you turn it around?

  • If your relationship is doing well, how can you ensure that your relationship will continue to grow?

  • As your relationship improves, how can you make changes last?

2. Assessing your relationship

  • Learn to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your relationship/marriage

  • Identify your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on these

  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may impede conflict resolution

  • Learn the small, easy steps that increase romance in your relationship

3. Building a “Sound Relationship House”

  • Learn how Love Maps provide a solid foundation for intimacy

  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another

  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress

  • Develop your problem-solving skills, including the four techniques of effective conflict resolution: Softened Start-up, Accepting Influence, Repair Work, and De-escalation

  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship