What People Are Saying
Nikki & David
As an engaged couple, Dave and I highly recommend this workshop as a way to deepen your connection and strengthen your relationship prior to getting married. During the Art and Science of Love course, we learned how to have productive discussion on hard to talk about topics, and how to have a more productive approach to conflict resolution. This interactive workshop armed us with the communication skills that will help us work through future disagreements by using Dr. Gottman's proven techniques. Additionally, this workshop showed us the importance of building a strong foundation of friendship by creating love maps, sharing fondness and admiration, and turning towards each other instead of away. We left the workshop having a better understanding for our emotional needs/wants and feeling more deeply connected.
The film opening the workshops featuring Fred, the widowed songwriter, was moving and very touching. As I watched, the depth of feeling that Fred experienced for his wife awakened the very deep love that exists in me for (my partner) Elizabeth, a depth that is fundamental. The film opened that place in my heart that holds the most profound and sacred feeling and appreciation for my mate, and from the mood in the room after the film ended, it seemed that everyone was in touch with their love, too. All of the exercises that we completed were quite valuable in that they gave us very practical, real life tools to strengthen and enhance our relationship. I did not experience anything that was difficult. In some form, we were already doing much of what Dr. Gottman suggested for building friendship and for making relationships work. The exercise on Managing Conflict was especially valuable. We were able to use this exercise to get in touch with, and to express to one another, family of origin
I wanted to send you an email testimonial about our experience last weekend at The Art & Science of Love weekend workshop for couples in Greensboro. Who is attending the Summit?I am a therapist in private practice (LCSW, LCAS, and I also specialize in EMDR), and I am fortunate to have the opportunity to also work with a lot of couples in my practice. My initial purpose for attending this workshop was to learn more about the Gottman method from an experiential perspective, as I've read about it for years, and have implemented pieces of it in my work with couples, but was interested in knowing more. My loving husband works as a landscaper, and while he is very supportive, he doesn't really know a lot about these "therapy training's" that I go to, and he was a little nervous about what he was getting himself into by accompanying me to this one (...and maybe I had a slight ulterior motive by inviting him to come- ha ha ha!). The workshop was a lot of fun for both of us, and beneficial strengthening our relations
We attended the Art and Science of Love workshop in Asheville in July. It was well worth our time and money. We did not go into the weekend expecting a great transformation nor were we in a bad place in our relationship. The issue that we’ve been facing for the past nine years has been this: we have an argument, it ends poorly based on the way we communicate during the argument, and we end up not talking for days. It’s an extremely frustrating and exhausting feeling. Ironically we had such an occurrence the night before the workshop while having dinner in Asheville so we were really hoping that the workshop would give us the tools necessary to work through the argument. What the workshop taught us is that each person in a relationship has a perspective and there isn’t a winner or a loser when a disagreement occurs. The therapists reassured us that arguing is a normal part of any relationship, but how we process the argument/discussion makes all the difference in the world. This workshop gave us tools to help us become better communicators during an argument and in general – which lead to us feeling closer in our relationship and more confident handling similar situations in the future - a very noteworthy workshop outcome!
Wow! I could go on forever about how professional and also highly entertaining Carole and Shelly are. They truly have a passion for the couples who attend this workshop. Not only do you have the opportunity to learn and practice skills that have a tremendous amount of evidence, you also get to see how Carole and Shelly have applied these skills to their own relationships. One of my favorite parts of the workshop are also hearing real questions from other couples at the workshop (anonymously) and having them answered during the workshop! Highly recommend!
Julie Sams, MA, LPC
Excellent, well worthwhile workshop! I highly recommend it!